Tough question, right? But don’t worry; I will simplify it to make you understand.
The truth is, you can’t know if someone is made for you if you do not know who you are; and how do you know who you are? It all begins with discovering your identity in Christ; you discover yourself through God’s word and the help of the Holy Spirit. The bible is replete with stories of who God is, it helps us understand God’s intentions for us.
In Genesis 2:4-3:24, the bible helps us understand that from the beginning man was not created for isolation. God created Adam first, then formed Eve out of Adam because God did not want Adam to be alone. The same God that created Eve for Adam has not changed; if He gave Adam his own help mate then you should know that he has someone for you.
As a Christian, you should have a different view when it comes to finding a mate or courtship. You can’t see dating and courtship the way the rest of the world sees it which is usually to date on and off as much as possible. As a wise Christian, the important thing is to discover the character of a person before making any commitment to him or her. Why is character important? Proverbs 27:17 says “Iron sharpens iron’’, you want a partner that knows and loves God just like you do, you want one who seeks God’s kingdom above all else and you want someone that loves the Lord, himself and others (Luke 10:27-28). God desires that you be with a person of godly character.
Whether dating or courting, following the biblical principles is the best way to have a secure foundation for marriage. The marriage decision is one of the most important decisions that a man or a woman will ever make. God created marriage to be permanent and unbreakable therefore choosing the right person is very important to the success of any marriage. Remember you become one flesh with whoever you choose (Gen 2:24). I am sure you don’t want to be one flesh with a person that despises the ways of the Lord.
The one person God created for you is that one person that would draw you closer to him; someone who will love God, love him/herself and love others. A person that would seek pleasing God above all else. The person for you is a person that is ready to follow God’s word and seek God’s kingdom. A person that puts pleasing God above pleasing you. If and when you find such a person, there would be peace in your heart when you pray and talk to God about your relationship. Remember, God wants only the best for you and has designed that perfect someone just for you.
Written by Kelechi Abiri