The Elevation Church

Leading Through Tough Conversations and Conflicts in Church



By Fortune Ojie 

The church is a place with diverse kinds of people. Expectedly, everyone in church should be a part of the body of Christ. Everyone is significant according to their giftings and callings.  Even though the church is meant to be a place of love acceptance and unity, like any community, conflicts and difficult conversations can arise. Once people lack understanding of their individual calling, they tend to rebel against higher authorities. From disagreements over theology to personal disputes among members, it is essential for the church to have effective conflict resolution strategies in place.  

A case study is seen in the Bible where Korah, the son of Levi and Dathan thought they had everything that qualified them to lead the children of Israel, instead of Moses. They thought they could challenge Moses and prove to the children of Israel that Moses was not competent enough and that they were the right people to lead and handle the things of God. Even though their action broke Moses heart, yet he pleaded that God should show them mercy.   

Navigating conflict resolution and having difficult conversations within the church can be a challenging task for leaders, no doubt. The church is a place where people of diverse backgrounds experiences and opinions come together which can give rise to disagreements tension and conflict. However, it is essential for church leaders to approach these situations with love wisdom and a commitment to fostering unity within the congregation. 

The first step in navigating conflict resolution is to create a safe and open environment where individuals feel comfortable expressing their concerns. As leaders, it is important to actively listen to all parties involved giving them an opportunity to share their perspectives without fear of judgment or retribution. Taking the time to understand each person’s viewpoint helps to build empathy and find common ground. 

Church leaders also need to approach conflict resolution from a place of humility and impartiality. It is important to set aside personal biases and agendas and strive for a fair and equitable resolution. The focus should be on seeking the truth and reaching a solution that aligns with the values and teachings of the church. 

Difficult conversations may often arise due to differing beliefs, theological interpretations or conflicting visions for the church’s future. In these instances, leaders should facilitate open dialogue that encourages respectful debate allowing individuals to express their viewpoints while adhering to established guidelines for communication. The goal is to foster a culture of understanding and mutual respect even in the midst of disagreement. 

Leaders should also be prepared to mediate conflicts if necessary. This may involve bringing in a neutral third party such as a church elder or trusted advisor who can help facilitate constructive conversations and guide the process towards resolution. Mediation ensures that all parties feel heard and that their concerns are addressed leading to a more sustainable and reconciled outcome. 

Throughout the conflict resolution process, it is crucial for church leaders to emphasize forgiveness, grace and reconciliation. Following the example set by Jesus, leaders should encourage individuals to approach conflict with a spirit of humility and a willingness to seek forgiveness and extend grace. By creating an atmosphere rooted in love and understanding, leaders can transform conflicts into opportunities for growth, healing and deeper relationships within the church community. 

Difficult conversations and conflicts are inevitable in any community including the church. However, by embracing open communication, seeking understanding, focusing on the issue rather than the person, utilizing active listening techniques, practicing empathy and addressing conflicts promptly, the church can navigate these challenges effectively. By fostering a culture of forgiveness and promoting unity, the church becomes a transformative and loving space where conflicts are resolved constructively. 

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