I came back from a one week trip and noticed that an innocent dove had already built a nest in my bathroom’s window and laid two precious eggs. The poor innocent dove miscalculated my short absence as a glorious opportunity to build a temporary home. Each time I want to use the restroom, the dove was usually so uncomfortable and most times flew away. After 3 to 5 days, I noticed the dove had abandoned the eggs. Trust my personality, I surfed the net and found out that disturbances of any sort are major reasons non-domestic doves abandon their nests. This highly motivated me to write this article.
Just as the business world sees effective communication as the life-wire of every organization, effective relationship is the life-wire of human existence. This is why it’s not uncommon for us to hear phrases like –
- Show me your friend and I’ll tell you who you are.
- If you consistently hang out with 4 millionaires, you’ll certainly be the 5th
- Hang out with 3 broke and irresponsible individuals; you’ll be the next one.
- If God wants to favour you, He sends people to bless you. If the devil wants to destroy you, he sends people too.
So the big question is: Are we a product of our relationships?
Believe it or not, we are highly influenced by our physical and spiritual relationships. Acts 4:13 says it all; When they saw the courage of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus. This typically shows us that Jesus’ traits were found in Peter and John because of their relationship with Christ.
How about earthly relationship? This is where we have chains of relationship that can make or mar destinies. Here we have workplace, family, business, school and church relationships, courtship and so on. From these aforementioned avenues of relationships, we certainly meet people with different cultural values, norms, belief system, value orientation and world outlook that have great consequences (positive or negative) to our everyday lives. Some people are happy and successful today because of the company they keep while some are in bondage as a result of their seemingly bad association.
Let’s take a look at a practical scenario…
Melvin was in love with a pretty lady and wanted to metamorphose the courtship to marriage. He met a resistance; the lady’s parents, to the reason best known to them, weren’t comfortable that Melvin was a digital marketer. They desired something more. In the quest to get a high paid job, Melvin’s finances drastically reduced because he didn’t pay much attention to his skill.
Frustrated on how things had degenerated, Melvin had a prompt from the Holy Spirit to relocate. He relocated to a new environment where he met an old friend who invited him to a church programme. He loved the oneness and simplicity among the brethren and decided to be a committed member. It was not until he attended a business conference organized by the church that the Holy Spirit spoke to him. God asked Moses, “What is that in your hand?” (See Exodus 4:2.) It was a rod. God then told Moses to throw the rod on the ground, and when he did, it became a serpent. Then God said, “Take it by the tail,” and it became a rod again.
Apparently, just like Moses, Melvin didn’t know how powerful his skill was. But from revelation, he channeled all his resources (time, finance & effort) into turning his skills into a business. Interestingly, the lady he wanted to marry had quit the relationship but Melvin wasn’t perturbed as his business was flourishing like never before; he was even earning better/higher than the office jobs he craved for. This example shows the ups & downs that can come from a negative and positive relationships.
Here are some points to ponder on:
- What if that innocent dove had stubbornly incubated the eggs?
- What if Peter and John weren’t positioned to meet Jesus Christ?
- What would have happened if Melvin hadn’t met a good old friend in the new environment?
In conclusion, I urge us all to try and create godly/positive relationships that add value. After an encounter with us, people should be able to say good things about their experience with you; let them say things like – you have a Christ-like behavior, thank God I met you; you have immensely impacted my life.
Just like that innocent dove, have the courage to quit a bad relationship. Just like Peter and John, position yourself to be in the right relationship to unlearn and relearn. Just like Melvin, hearken to the voice of the Holy Spirit to guide you on your choice of friendships.
Written by Richard Agu